Gaslighting often confused with Motivating

Often a partner needs motivation i.e. a partner hasn't been doing anything besides gossiping on the phone or playing computer games all day, everyday. Sometimes the other partner will say, stop being lazy and start helping with the kids or cleaning up the house, instead of being lazy and doing nothing. Quite often this can be confused in court for Gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind. Typically, gaslighters are seeking to gain power and control over the other person, by distorting reality and forcing them to question their own judgment and intuition.

What gaslighting is not is trying to motivate a lazy partner to help with the family necessities helping the family grow in the right direction.

Other examples are motivating a partner to try harder to get a job, stop making mistakes such as putting the children at risk, breaking or damaging something, telling a partner they can do better is often confused with gaslighting.